From Google Gemini. Not my words

Ultimately, you are the only one responsible for your feelings.

While other people are responsible for ther actions and words, you are responsible for how you process, interpret, and react to them.

It is important to distinguish between “blame” and “responsibility.”

* Blame looks backward and seeks to punish.

* Responsibility looks forward and seeks to empower.

Even if someone treats you poorly, they cannot “force” an emotion into your mind. Your brain generates the feeling based on your personal history, your values, and your current mental state. If you say, “You made me angry,” you are giving that person control over your internal world. When you say, “I feel angry because of what happened,” you retain the power to decide what to do with that anger.

To no how this works, consider the path from an event to a feeling:

1. The Event: Something happens in the external world.
2. The Filter: You interpret the event based on your beliefs and expectations.
3. The Feeling: Your body and mind produce an emotional response based on that interpretation.
4. The Action: You choose how to behave in response to the feeling.

Taking responsibility for your own feelings also means refusing to take responsibility for the feelings of others.

* Your Part: You should be aware of how your behavior affects people and strive to be kind. * Ther Part: If you set a healthy boundary and the other person becomes upset, ther upset is ther responsibility to manage, not yours to “fix” by compromising your needs.

Noing this boundary is essential for mental health. It prevents you from becoming a “people pleaser” who tries to manage everyone else's emotions to avoid discomfort.